Most first year wives always complaign of their husbands as men of few words and not open in all communication concerning family matters ,Some husbands accused of taking the roles of their wives and using wrong cloth at wrong places or utensils ,such as dish towels used to clean up their hands. Whilst new husbands about to new headship of their new families shocked by different expections they discovered short from their new wives, these include sudden changes of mood and not take her role of being a committed wife in the new family.
Hey newly married couples ,don't be confused by the new course of life you are about to venture on as you model your own previous family experiences .There are so many challenges newly married couples always worried about in their first year marriage.Does it mean when they were dating the faults and fobles were absent. Lets not waste time on the blame game to any of these sides, but how can the newly married couples go on with their vision of having a good family like others before them?
Marriage can be viewed as an institution found in the human society.It is commonly found by a matual man and matual lady who enter into certain ceremonies and cultural dating activities to build their own relationships vital to get into marriage. Some of the ceremonies include wedding parties which can be officiated by the marriage officer according to the laws of that state or society. In most cases the bridegroom is asked to pay lobola as a sign of having regal rights to the bride. Some societies in these days are also allowing homosexuals to get married also it is still a taboo especially in African communities.
The type of marriage which we are going to look at is that of a husband (man) and a wife (lady).
Firstly new year couples should not expect that because of the colourful wedding feast they organised and happily gathered by parents ,friends,classmates ,collegues ,fellow believers and neighbours. They are also experts in marriage life. A certain British Lady, I still remembered since 1996 was married to an Iraqi man who came to the British soil doing studies in medicine and date her had once said,"marriage is a commitment which needs great honour."That commitment which is necessary to be possessed in a marriage life should not to be a burden to any of the couples who sacrifices to live together with other immediate family members.
Yes as you were young you were acquiring social skills from your parents' relationship and your immediate community families. During the time of your dating you were also working on perfecting these skills to make your relationship progress in harmony.However when now about to take your own marriage adventure these skills take a new twist in concurrence with the situational demands of your new family order.On this kind of hapahazard changing of ways of life ,you bound to make a lot of mistakes and if all of you continue to strive with marriage certainly you will gain new skills.
During the times you go into quarallels which you have problems to resolve on your own.Don't waste time promoting the atmosphere of silence and live me alone attitudes.Consult your marriage officers on the subject matter and then learn to accept one's mistakes ,so that you can have a new way forward with zealous.
The major challenges of new married couples is that of making own decision without bothering to consult the partner.This is the biggest problem which can necessitate conflicts between the couples. In the next article we shall discuss some of the challenges face by the newly wed couples as they take a new twist of the marriage life.
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